There are a ton of etiquette rules surrounding a wedding. And while it may be hard to know each and every one, and even though times have changed, there are rules that still apply.
In particular, I get a lot of questions about including registry information with the invitation suite. While I understand that registries give you insert cards to include with your invitations, this does NOT mean it is OK to include the information when sending out your wedding invitations.
Why? By including the information on the invitation or as an insert, you are basically telling your guests that you expect a gift. And contrary to popular belief, your guests AREN'T required to buy you a wedding gift. So where is it appropriate to include registry information?
1) Bridal shower invitations - it is considered appropriate to have your wedding party include a small line at the bottom of the invitation that indicates where the bride is registered or to include registry inserts in the bridal shower invitation envelope.
2) Wedding websites - with all the free wedding websites available out there, couples can easily create a website that provides more information about the wedding, activities to do in between the ceremony and reception, and of course, registry information. It is perfectly acceptable to include a line at the bottom of the invitation that says, "For more information, visit our wedding website at..."
3) Word of mouth - this is still one of the best ways to get the information out about the wedding. Make sure your parents, wedding party and close family know where you are registered; that way, if other friends and family ask them, they can tell your guests where you are registered.
Cash donationsIt is never, ever, EVER, EVER (did I get my point across?!) okay to indicate anywhere that you prefer a cash donation. If you aren't planning to build a registry, then simply do not include the information on your wedding website. By not including the information on your website or invitation, your guests will most likely recognize that it is implied that you do not have a registry. If your guests ask you, your family or your wedding party, you can simply state that you have chosen not to register anywhere, without blatantly stating that you want a cash donation.
Another option if you are looking for cash instead of gifts is to create a honeymoon registry. There are several registries available for couples to sign up for. You and your fiance can put an itemized list together of what you'd like to do on your honeymoon and your guests can contribute to those activities (ex. dinner for two on the beach, sunset horseback ride, swimming with the dolphins, etc.)
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